Last Summer I did something that really scared me. I packed a bag and headed off to hang out in a monastery. No internet. No mobile phone. No TV. Three days of walking, thinking, and reading. Aside from God, I didn’t converse much with anyone apart from one chat with Father Vincent, a chilled out monk who gave me a few tips on how to be… silent.
I’ve never been great with silence. The very thought of being still terrified me for years. I was the girl who watched TV whilst checking twitter whilst downloading the latest Radiohead album. Distraction was my addiction.
However, my time in stillness had quite an odd effect. After three days of being cut off from the outside world several things became apparent. One of the most notable was that I no longer felt the need to wear make up. In fact, I couldn’t remember the last time I’d felt happier with my appearance.
I believe there were probably several factors that contributed to this, although I can’t deny that the absence of a constant stream of multi media must have been instrumental to this change.
As a woman, I’m constantly bombarded with the pressure to be ‘perfect’. Anything less is just not good enough. Adverts, touched-up magazine covers and glamorised TV dramas all play their part. The average person living in the Western world is exposed to hundreds, and according to some reports – thousands, of commercial messages every day. They say ‘Hey there! You’re inadequate as you are, but if you buy this mascara you’ll be acceptable again.’ Lucky you. Consumerism steals our dignity and then sells it back to us.
Apparently we all need whitened teeth, abnormally long eyelashes, hardcore abs and minimal body hair. And by the way, we need to spend our hard earned cash on perfect lives too – the car, the holiday, the latest brand of toothpaste. Last year’s model is no longer powerful enough to banish the unwanted disease of imperfection.
However, I’m not sure that perfection is necessarily where beauty lives. This doesn’t just apply to physical appearance, but all aspects of life. Sometimes it is within the broken, messed up things in this world that we find that which is most captivating. We just need to learn how to see without the constraints of a restrictive culture.
So here’s my confession. I am not perfect. I don’t think I’ve ever painted my nails without smudging the edges. I fall on my ass roughly twice a month. It’s not elegant. I have noticeable stains on my front teeth and my elbows bend in the wrong direction (no kidding). After some consideration, I’ve decided to hang on to these special features.
Perfection is… well, it’s rather boring really, isn’t it? Should we all just conform to an acceptable ‘type’? I’m not sure I want to be like everybody else. The stains are staying put.
 I wish to God that I came up with this line myself, but I stole it from a dude with ginger dreadlocks.